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I think about my family all the time. Being the sole survivor of my immediate family, I miss them terribly, but know they are in good hands. My brother, Chip, was one of those rare, St. Paul-type recipients of radical transformation in an instant. My last communication with him before he was killed in a tragic car accident revealed to me what had happened to him. He did not even say anything about it, but the change in his voice and the way he spoke was night and day. At the time, I did not understand what I was hearing and still believed he was the same hard to deal with jerk I had grown up with. But he was not. And I'm grateful I had one last chance to communicate with my brother. And that glimpse that God gave he and has so powerfully affected me later, I do think that was a a God-thing and not just chance.

I bring it up to say that was not even the end of the story. My father, deeply devoted man of God (and engineer who started his career with NASA during the moon shots) described experiencing a visit from Chip early in the morning, shortly after he departed this life. He said to Dad, "Dad, I'm fine. Do not worry about me." Interesting he picked Dad to sent this message. Of the three of us remaining, Dad was the one least likely to entertain such fancy, as he had the classical Protestant idea that souls do not hang around here for any reason, nor do they communicate with us still doing our biological thing. But there are way too many of these kinds of stories to dismiss them.

Also, my mother, also a deeply devoted woman of faith who loved the Lord, she struggled after Dad left eight years ago. But she kept herself busy, mostly with church and family after Dad went to Heaven. But more than once, she asked God why she was still here. I visited her most mornings, sharing a Bible devotion with her, as I did with both of them when Dad was still here. Her prayers began consistently including an appeal to God to do something for Uncle William, Dadi's older brother. He had begun showing signs of some kind of degenerative nerve condition when Dad was still here, like Parkinson's, though it had not been diagnosed back when Dad began expressing concerns. He went from a strong, hearty man to this feeble presence. And eventually, he was all but in a coma state, that my aunt struggled to care for. Mom could see this and prayed for God to please either restore him or bring him home, as this in between state was not helping anyone.

Then came when my Mom was taken, January of last year. COVID did her in. I also got my first and only case, but came through fine. But I had to bury my last immediate family member. In addition, Uncle William, who had gone into the hospital again a few days after Mom died, passed on as well. But because Mom had passed from COVID, quarrantine procedures made it that she got laid to rest after my uncle.

Thing is, when I showed up for his funeral, I had a cluster of cousins come up to me with strange looks on their faces. "Did you know?" they asked. I asked what were they talking about. They explained.

Apparently one night at the hospital, Uncle William, who had been comatose for some time, opened his eyes, sat up in bed and said in a clear voice, "Mary is here."

"Where?" the family members present asked. Also, one said, "Whose Mary?"

"JB's Mary," he said in response, pointing to a seeming empty space in the room. JB is my Dad's name.

I can tell you Mom loved William and was deeply concerned. Being over there, she absolutely would want to be in the party escorting him over if she had the option.

Since then, the Lord has been helping me with a few long-standing issues in my faith and such. And in my supreme doubts about my path He intends, especially thing Navy chaplain thing I've been wrestling against Him for years.

He sent me a dream, a vision, of me in that role, ministering to sailors. It was so beautiful, real and vivid.

This small group on spiritual warfare, I had one guy who has made every class. But he absolutely needed this class and the spiritual change in him as we approach the end of the semester, you can see.

The Lord will leave the 99 temporarily to go retrieve the one. No ministering effort is too small.

I'm now helping out with a local mission effort standing up. They will need bus drivers. And I just so happen to have a Class B license I got decades ago that I hung onto, because you never know.

And there are other things, but I've gone on enough.

The Lord is always there. He never leaves us, my friends. And he is always waiting to hear from us.

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Lee Podles's avatar

Catholics and Orthodox have a much livelier sense of the unity of the Church over time and space, in life and in death. It is not totally absent in Protestantism, but it is not as lively.

God could act directly without intermediaries, without secondary causes, but He chooses to act through intermediaries, through secondary causes, through both the living and the dead, so that thanksgiving may be multiplied. We are grateful for all his benefits which come to us through his chosen intermediaries, and love is thereby increased.

I pray for my ancestors and my descendants. As I walked the Camino de Santiago, I remembered that as the Jacobsweg it went through Regensburg, where my German ancestors lived, and that some of my ancestors undoubtedly walked on the very stones that I was walking on. I prayed that some of my descendants would go on the pilgrimage and pray for me.

As I near 80, most of the people I have known in my life are gone: parents, aunts and uncles, teachers, neighbors, cousins, people who have injured me, and people whom I have injured. I pray for them all. I pray for the forgotten dead, for those who have no one to pray for them.

Purgatory is not a place of punishment but of purgation. We confront the reality of our lives in the divine light and see the truth about our lives. It is a painful process, because we live in a cloud of self-deception and ignorance. The fire of purgatory is the fire of divine love burning away all the dross of our lives.

An excellent introduction is A Hiker’s Guide to Purgatory (Michael Norton, Ignatius Press, 2022). A seventy-seven year old man has a heart attack and wakes up in a beautiful forest and finds himself equipped with camping equipment. It is beautiful place, because Purgatory is the foothills of heaven, not the antechamber of hell. He goes on a long hike and what his life has been is slowly shown to him and he must face it. It is a guy book, as the sins he has committed are male sins, and some parts of the book really tear the heart out.

Orthodox, some Anglicans, and Catholics, who have systematized the process to a bizarre degree, believe that somehow God uses our love for them to help the dead go through the process of purification. Perhaps as they sense our love for them, they are able to overcome their own obstacles to perfect love, and it speeds the process of purification. One of the spiritual acts of mercy is to pray for the living and the dead, because in that way we can participate in the work of the Mercy that saves us.

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